Let’s talk about Christmas, New Year, Birthdays…etc

As Muslims, there are certain times of the year when we are surrounded by the celebrations of others, Christmas, New Year, Valentine’s Day and similar occasions.

Even when we strive to guard our homes and uphold Islamic boundaries, these celebrations are openly displayed in wider society. Decorations in public spaces, seasonal products in shops, and general discussion make them difficult to fully avoid. As parents, we may understand the reality of these occasions, but eventually our children become aware of them too.

At first, this awareness may seem insignificant. A child notices certain foods being promoted, special items on sale, or repeated references to upcoming celebrations. However, repeated exposure can lead to normalisation. Without clear teaching, children may begin to associate happiness, generosity, and togetherness with non-Islamic celebrations instead of the occasions Allah has chosen for this ummah.

More concerning still is the fact that many Muslims openly participate in these celebrations. Whether it is “just a roast,” “just a birthday cake,” or “just presents for the children,” these actions blur the clear boundaries of the deen. What is presented as harmless or cultural still carries meaning and influence, especially for young hearts that are learning what it means to be Muslim.

As Muslims, we believe Islam is complete and distinct. Allah has given the Muslims their own identity, acts of worship, and celebrations. The Prophet ﷺ informed us that every nation has its festivals, and the Muslims have the two Eids. Imitating the celebrations of others, particularly those connected to beliefs that oppose tawheed, weakens Islamic identity and creates confusion for our children.

For families who homeschool, this issue is especially relevant. Home education is often chosen to protect aqeedah before anything else. It is not enough to simply avoid these celebrations; we must clearly explain why Muslims do not take part in them. These lessons should be taught with wisdom, consistency, and reference to the Qur’an and Sunnah upon the understanding of the Salaf.

This time of year can also be used positively. Strengthen your children’s love for Islam by speaking about Ramadan with excitement, honouring the two Eids, and teaching them the Islamic calendar. When children are raised upon clarity and confidence in their Muslim identity, they are far less affected by what surrounds them.

This is not about harshness or unnecessary isolation. It is about obedience to Allah, protection of the heart, and clarity in belief. By holding firmly to the way of the Salaf within our homes, we safeguard our children and raise a generation that is content with Islam and proud to practise it.

If you want a child-friendly resource that helps explain why Muslims do not celebrate Christmas, New Year, and similar occasions, we have created a simple resource specifically for children. It is designed to support parents in having clear, confident conversations rooted in Islamic principles. You can access it here: https://www.salafihomeschool.co.uk/product-page/muslims-must-not-celebrate